I am Elijah R Young, I’m here with Sarah J. Storer and this is Relations: The Podcast, the on-demand radio show giving you better relationships, and more importantly, helping you become a better person to be in a relationship with…In today’s show:
We’ll discuss some things you should consider before you get married!
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…You’ve found the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with…but are you ready? While love will certainly help keep you together, there are certain practical considerations that can help make a marriage great. We’ll discuss those tips and our thoughts in today’s episode: What to Know Before You Get Married.
You have share the same thoughts and beliefs on cheating. If you go into a marriage, one thinks that cheating isn’t a huge deal, the other thinks that it’s a deal breaker it’s going to be an issue.
Physical attraction, when all the excitement from the upcoming nuptials wears off, you’re going to need to be attracted to the person.
Best friends. You have to be able to share anything and everything with this person, if you can’t then people start to keep secrets, secrets sound harmful by themselves. Once you start keeping secrets, you start out small, for example shoes, pretty soon the secrets start growing bigger.
Control, has to be shared you don’t get to have absolute control over everything. Men and women play different roles in the relationship, be the woman, so he can be the man.
You each need to have your own passions and interests apart from each other. There is nothing worse, than feeling as if you have to ‘entertain’ someone. Or you’re always hurrying at whatever you are doing, because the other person has no life outside of you.
You NEED to know that HAPPINESS is an inside job! Nobody else should have to try and make you happy, it’s too much pressure for another person, and not their job.
After you get married that doesn’t mean that you can say “ahhh now I can slack off, I got him/her” it takes just as much effort to maintain a healthy relationship, as it did to get the person.
Forgive QUICKLY!!! The faster that you get over anything in life, the faster that you are able to move on and let go.
If you don’t know how to play anymore, learn to play again, life is supposed to be fun. We take life way too seriously most of the time. Go to the park, play on the swings, throw around a football, play basketball together. Have fun, laugh!
Resentment is a silent killer of relationships, when you have things that aren’t settled completely, resentment trickles in, and it’s deadly to a relationship.
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